Another thing that people ask me is, “How long should I wait after a relationship before I get into another?”<\/p>\n
Variables play a HUGE roll in this, guys. This question simply cannot be answered with a “formula.” (You know, that formula… x = past relationship duration \/ 2 or whatever the fuck…) The best way to answer this question in by meeting criteria. And for that criteria, I have this:<\/p>\n
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\u00b9- You know, whether you did the breaking up, or they did. If that relationship meant a damn thing, it hurts it’s over. There is a “calming,” period that should be mandatory for everyone. This is the time where you may want to just cry, be alone,\u00a0or be with others if that’s your thing…\u00a0During this time you are free to have irrational thoughts, but be sure to not act on them. That’s typically unhealthy.<\/p>\n
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\u00b2- When you’re with whoever you might consider dating, you need to realize that they are an individual. Comparing this person to the past is unfair, in both good and bad ways. That thought, “Oh, well my LAST girl never did this…” or, “Well shit, I never had this fight with ____” Is unnecessary. As well as comparing any two people.<\/p>\n
The only exception to this rule is sex. Chances are, the first person you ever had it with will pop into your head. As frowned upon that is, it’s normal. So\u00a0are any other past partners. Basically, try to keep this to a minimum, and DONT SAY THE WRONG NAME. (Haha, see? I can be funny too.)<\/p>\n
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\u00b3- I just want to amend on to this. Don’t trick yourself. Don’t fake emotions. Don’t say, “I’m over that,” if you’re really not. That’ll only confuse the hell out of the other person, and possibly yourself. Those people who’re always in and out of relationships are the ones who can’t seem to abide by this rule.<\/p>\n
The other half of this IS time-based. I don’t care how short or long your past relationship was, or\u00a0how fast you can get over things; take some damn time off. You can tie this is with the first rule: that “calming,” time is a gateway to a successful relationship in the future.<\/p>\n
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I just had to get these thoughts out. I figure maybe if I write about it I’ll actually remember this when people ask me. If anyone has any other criteria, please comment. I’ll sort out the good and bad ones, and probably update this post.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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